10 Things I Know About Healing
I’ve been on a ‘healing journey’ for my entire adult life, and here is what I have learned:
1. There is no such thing as healing, because there is no such thing as broken.
That does not mean that you cannot learn to love yourself, express yourself and live a much richer and fuller life than you realised, but that we need to shift the healing paradigm. If you are motivated to heal by a sense that you need fixing, then you will at some stage have to learn to ‘cross over’ to a belief that you are entirely whole.
2. Your difficult times, if not properly processed through the bodymind system, have left an imprint, but they do not make you broken.
To learn from our experiences is why we are here. Anyone that abandons you is teaching you to stand on your own two feet. Anyone that takes your power is teaching you to get your power back. Everyone takes time to digest and assimilate these lessons, and it can be helpful to have a practice, space, a circle, healer or therapist to help you.
3. Healing then isn’t about replacing broken parts, or getting rid of ANYTHING about you.
Your painful experiences just need to be felt, so that their energy can be translated into wisdom. Healing is about helping you to become more of who you already are – a perfect, complete spark of divinity.
4. Healers hold the space, but YOU are the one that needs to do the work.
You want to choose a healer, therapist, or counsellor that you know has really worked on themselves, so that they can hold the torch light for you. But when it comes to walking through the healing corridors, you are the one in charge of your feet
5. The mind and body are intimately connected and both must be considered on your journey.
The food you put in your body can radically transform your physical form, but it is only half the story. Often people get so far with nutritional advice, but then get stuck on an emotional relationship with food, or simply stuck energy that has nothing to do with food but which is still compromising the body/mind.
Equally, you cannot hope to sit in beautiful meditation after consuming 10 cups of coffee and drinking all night.
6. A journey to the experience of more wholeness is a complete rewiring and transformation of everything.
You swap dull job mediocrity for a sense of purpose, lacklustre relationships for increasing intimacy and creativity, and experience of the world through the mind and ego for an experience through the heart and soul.
7. Healing is addictive in the best kind of way.
Once you realise how much better it is possible to feel, you never want to stop. And the best part is, it is never-ending. If you are alive then there is more expression possible.
8. We are not separate from each other.
Our beliefs and cultural norms overlap and intertwine. Her belief about ‘girls care for others before themselves’ was not learned in isolation. When she learns to value herself and move past this limiting belief, she shifts the playing field for everyone. She teaches her kids new ways and inspires her partner, her friends and communities forwards to an experience of more joy, love, peace, wisdom, clarity and wholeness.
9. Every single emotional response is yours.
It comes from your wiring and your conditioning. When we learn how to take responsibility for ourselves and our emotions then we reach a new stage of emotional maturity. When you deal with the internal ‘trigger’, often the external issue melts away. In this way everyone in your life is a mirror, showing you where you are holding stuck energy and giving you the opportunity to release it. That is where your power is.
If the issues in your life are outside yourself, then you’re screwed and it’s hopeless. But when you realise that you have the power to shift how you feel about things internally, then you really start to transform your life for the better.
10. At the core of each and every one of us is love.
It is the building block of the universe and the life force of every person. It is the hearth we warm ourselves on and the upswelling of our life force. We create struggle and suffering when we believe we need to get this love from outside and we become vastly more free, open, happy when we learn how to tap into the well we all have inside. We do this by listening to ourselves, to our intuitions, to our feelings. By honouring ourselves and treating our spirits and our bodies with the love and respect they deserve.